Wednesday, August 31, 2005

Stay at Home Mom rant

You know I've been thinking I should start up a "pet peeve of the week column" thing here on my blog. Then once a week I can pick something that annoys me and write about it. Then I thought perhaps my pet peeve of the week column might become someone else's pet peeve. :-)

Anyway today's is about people who think that SAHM's do nothing but sit around watching soaps. First of all let me say I'm not fond of my neighbour. In fact I think she's quite odd and lately I have gotten sick of her comments so don't take any shit off her any more.

Yesterday I'm mowing the lawn and as I shut off the mower, she comes out. Says now I've done that, I should trim the hedge, it's a mess.

My answer: Like hell. LOL In May a friend of hers trimmed it and I've done it twice since, and was planning on waiting another week or two and then giving it its fall haircut. And I told her that too. Of course she didn't move on so it was mentioned that my kids were already back to school (hers start on Tuesday). And she says how now I should have all this free time!

My answer: Bullshit.

I've talked to other SAHM's about this and find we are mostly all victim to the "you stay home and don't do anything all day" syndrome. Do people really think we all sit around watching soaps and eating chocolate all day? We're constantly being asked to babysit other people's kids, asked to take our kids, or worse, host, a playdate. Personally I write on average two to three manuscripts a year, I volunteer at my kid's school 2 mornings a month, I am involved in the music program at my church, I give my daughter piano lessons. I walk to and from the school 3 times a day. I make many of my christmas presents and donate to the craft bazaar at church every year. Added to that I make dinner that doesn't come out of a box or a frozen tray, actually iron our clothes, and really do "spring clean" every year. I try to do things with my kids, and we all read together every night. My day starts at 6 a.m. and ends at 8 p.m. once the kids are in bed.

I am blessed to be able to stay at home with my family, but if anyone WANTS to be lazy, they can be. Just because I have time, doesn't mean I don't use it. And because my writing isn't making money YET doesn't mean I don't consider it work. I do, even though others don't. SAHM's do a lot of the things that working moms wish they could. We donate our time; volunteer, help out at schools and churches and in communities. If we didn't do that, we would surely be missed.


  1. SAHM -- oh I so agree. Sometimes people forget exactly how hard it is to bring up children.
    So much time? I give a scornful laugh.

  2. Amen! Donna, you're absolutely right. We made a decision with our children that we wanted to bring up our kids, not daycare and doing it is the most stressful and exhausting job i have ever had. But i love every second of it. Well, mostly, lol.

  3. Here here Donna!! Couldn't have said it better!!

  4. My mother was a SAHM and I know for a fact that me and my two sisters put her through her paces. lol Yeah, we did watch Days of Our Lives but the rest of the time it was constant washing clothes, cooking, cleaning, figuring up the checkbook, putting a stop to the shouting matches, etc. etc. A mother's work is never done Whether you're a SAHM or have a job outside the home. :-)

  5. I totally agree Donna. SAHM's are so unnappreciated. People just don't get it.

  6. Well said, Donna. It's even worse if you don't have kids - people assume that I have oodles of free time, but I try to write every day and I volunteer (too much!). Of course there's never enough time to get all that housework done - LOL.